This One’s a Keeper

vivienThis month I received the Entice Vivien from Cal Exotics for my Sexpert review.

Shit. Fuck. Damn.

This little boy went well above and beyond my expectations. When I finally set out to review this rabbit-style toy, I wasn’t expecting a whole lot. I’ve used my fair share of rabbits before and although I don’t mind them, they are not my favorite go-to toy.

Well, fuck. I was so wrong.

I grabbed the Vivien and opened up my laptop, headed to my favorite porn site. I wasn’t even horny or aroused, and seemed to be treating it more as a chore than a favorite activity.

As I ran the silicone over my mound, I noticed how smooth and soft the material was and how nice the low vibration was. And then I noticed the heat.

Yes, the heat. And oh. my. god. The things it does. I never knew what heat could do, and now, in reflection, I kind of pissed off that I never realized how phenomenal just a little touch could be.

  • 100% phthalate free silicone
  • Warms to 104 degrees while vibrating
  • Available in pink, raspberry and purple

It didn’t take me long to find the right combination of vibrations and soon I had him nudging between my lips, already starting to glisten with moisture. A few thrusts later, he’s buried deep and I kick on the second motor, the one located in the little “rabbit,” and I was in heaven. HEAVEN. I kicked it up another notch and with a slight movement of my hips and a tweak and a pinch to my nipple, I was cumming. Hard.

  • Independent dual motors
  • 4 inches long with a diameter of 1.25 inches at the thickest
  • Slight G-spot curve for added pleasure
  • 8 different functions on each vibratorviv 2

I was pleasantly surprised by the Vivien’s ability to make me crest so quickly, but I was only 5 minutes into my masturbation session, and I wanted more. And let me tell you, it gave more. 3 orgasms in the next 5 minutes, along with a wet towel and a dripping hand.

Not too bad for a rabbit. Not too bad at all. This guy has found a permanent place in my nightstand drawer.

  • First, this thing is rechargeable, and thus far the best rechargeable I’ve ever seen. It’s a USB charge, which means that you can charge it just about anywhere you’ve got a computer. The charger connects with magnets on the controller. Therefore there isn’t any plug port to get dirty or worry about. Really cool feature.
  • Waterproof. Always a huge bonus! 
  • The controller is a little confusing at first, as there are only 2 buttons and they control both motors, the heat and all the functions.
  • It turns on by holding down both buttons for 3 to 5 seconds. The main vibrator will turn on. Hit the bottom button to turn on the heat. And then hit it again to change functions. Hit the top button to start the second vibrator.
  • Both vibrators have 8 functions. 1) small and steady: sss    2) slightly stronger, but not toe curling: zzz   3) strong in a numbing kind of way: ZZZ 4) quick and strong pulses: Z Z Z  5) quick, than long, with a bit of escalation: ss ss zzzzZZZZ 6) quick pulses, strong, than weak: ZZ ZZ ZZ zz zz zz 7) feels random, although I assume there is some pattern to it 8) strong, long pulses: ZZZ  ZZZ.
  • I’ve struggled to figure out how to shut it off. The directions say to hold down both buttons for 5 seconds, but that doesn’t always seem to work right away. Sometimes it likes to flip through a few functions first.
  • It’s silicone, so remember to not use silicone lubes and keep it away from other silicone toys.
  • Wash with a  toy cleaner or simply soap and water.

Really, this is a fantastic toy. If you’re thinking of a vibrator, go with this one, you will not be disappointed.



Looking For Your Opinion

Hey y’all. I know I’ve been a ghost around here, but I’m working on transitioning my life from a “9-to-5-cubicle-timeclock-punching” one to a freelance-writer kind of one. I’ve got 6 weeks to get everything in order before it’s official and I feel as though I’m scrambling and spinning in too many directions.

Anyway, part of my transition includes life here at LSAM and I’m doing some backend work as we speak. I’m at the point that I’m ready to purchase a url (if you remember my frustration a few months back) and I need your opinion.

If you follow closely, you already know that lovesexandmarriage(dot)com is outrageously expensive and well-beyond my means. I did email the company and offered them a low-ball offer of a $100, but they simply dropped the price $100 for me. Sorry, still can’t afford that 2K price tag.

So I’ve come to terms that I’ve got to change my brand a bit. And this is where I need your help.

I can go with a number of options and want to know what you think is best.

If you have another idea, please post it in the comments.

And thank you, dear reader, for not only reading and following along, but for your assistance with this transition.

I love you all!

*hugs and kisses*

Sweetheart Wand

When this month’s Cal Exotics package arrived, I was so excited to see it and quickly unwrapped the

  • The Embrace Sweetheart Wand comes in a discreet black box with a foam liner to hold it in place.
  • The box provides a perfect storage for the Wand and holds it snug in its place. Helps keep it clean too!

I was surprised by the beauty of this thing and it made my body respond instantly.

  • Made of 100% smooth silicone, this baby is soft to the touch and comes in pink, purple and gray.
  • And it’s waterproof. Always a bonus!
  • Shaped like a rabbit, the main shaft of the Wand is 4.75 inches long with a 1.5 inch diameter and curves upward, perfect for G-spot stimulation.
  • The rabbit “ears” are tulip shaped and each one has its own motor. Each ear is 2.25 inches long.

I didn’t want to wait, couldn’t wait, and sought out batteries to test the strength of my new toy.

  • The Sweetheart Wand runs off of 2 AAA batteries.

I was pleasantly surprised when I finally got the opportunity to settle down with this boy. I pushed the power button and it started a low, steady vibration that made my pussy tingle. I pushed the button again and the vibrations were stronger. And then stronger again.

  • Embrace’s Wand has 3 different motors and 7 different functions with 7 speeds for each, giving you LOTS of variations to play with.
  • The power gradually increases in power when you hold down the top of button on the controls, which makes it rather easy to change things around without much thought or effort.  

And then it was time to get busy. I slipped under the covers and turned it on. Starting slow, I rubbed the wand up and down my pussy, already wet with anticipated excitement.

The vibrations were softer and smoother than I expected them to be, and as I brought the wand up to my clit, my head laid back as I let the feelings swarm over me.wand

  • The main shaft of the wand is firm, but malleable, and will bend with pressure.
  • The “ears” bend easy and mold to where you want them to go.
  • The vibrations are soft, not rumbly, even at full strength.

As I relaxed into my masturbation session, my hands started moving the wand on their own accord. Soon, the wand was no longer acting as a wand, but as a rabbit, pushed deep inside me, with the stems hard against my clit.

I played with the functions and strength until I found the right rhythm. My hips start moving in time with my thrusting and I push it harder against my cunt, burying it deep.

  • The first 3 functions are steady vibrations, each stronger than the other.
  • The fourth is a steady pulsate: zzz  zzz  zzz
  • The fifth is 2 short pulses, followed by a longer one: zzz  zzz ZZZZ 
  • The sixth builds in strength, then back down: zzzZZZzzzZZZ
  • The last is like the fifth, but with more short pulses: zzz  zzz  zzz  zzz  zzz  ZZZZ

M, who’s been watching me up to this point, reaches over, his fingers running over the flesh of my breast, coming to rest on my nipple. Before long, he’s twisting and pulling, his fingers playing until my eyes close and my breath shallow.

His play becomes rough and my orgasm gets closer. I speed up the wand, push it harder against me and then I’m tipping over the edge, my orgasm cresting, then crashing into me like a tidal wave.

After that, I’m pretty sure I was rolled onto my stomach, pulled onto my knees and had the shit fucked out of me.


When it comes to vibrations, I’m used to using my Hitachi, both with masturbation and when we play during sex. This wand is NOT a Hitachi. Remember, it runs off of 2 AAA batteries, not a wall socket.

But that’s not a necessarily a bad thing.

It did take longer for me to reach orgasm, but it was less than 10 minutes and I wasn’t really trying to hurry up the process if you know what I mean.

It was not numbing to either my hand nor my clit and it’s not heavy, weighing in at just under 6 oz., so it doesn’t make your arm tired when you’re trying to manipulate it or hold it in place.

Overall, the Sweetheart Wand is a great battery-powered wand/vibrator. It’s aerodynamic and fits my body well, and I’d be willing to guess it’s maneuverable enough to fit most.

I’m pretty happy to have this guy in my toy chest.

  • Wash with soap and water or any type of toy cleaner.
  • Use only water based lubrication.
  • Keep away from other silicone toys, as they will mold together, and it’s not a pretty sight.


The “Problem” with Female Masturbation

Be prepared. This may get a little ranty.

My friend BIG RICH stumbled upon a few articles and emailed them to me this morning. I guess he thought I’d find them interesting. Or maybe he misses hearing my tangents. Either way, this is what he got.

They’re both from Christianity Today and I picked The Real Problem With Female Masturbation because I thought it would be more interesting. I haven’t read the other one yet, this one’s enough for right now. But after skimming it, I think I’m glad I didn’t; it might piss me off more than this did.

I started the article and, honestly, I was rather impressed by the first paragraph where Jordon Monge praises women for bringing masturbation up in conversation. Damn right. Let’s talk about it.

Then she starts to discuss lust, and that’s when I started rolling my eyes, although she included valid points. Things like Christianity focusing on the wife fulfilling the husband’s desires, but never concerning itself with the woman’s libido, even though she should be passionate and exciting at the drop of his whim.

 It treats sex as a man’s playing field, reinforcing the notion that women should cater to men’s desires without possessing similar desires of their own…

We need a biblical approach that recognizes both the immense pleasure of the female orgasm and the inherent goodness of sexual desire while reserving its proper place for within marriage.

This is the last line on the first page, and I was like Hell Yeah! with a fist pump. I was excited for where I thought Monge was going with this, but I was so very wrong.

She continues talking about lust and how it needs to be treated like any other sin and we must learn the “discipline of self-control.”

Humph. Well, see here we differ. But I’m okay with that. I understand we all have different opinions and believe different things. I don’t believe mine is in anyway better than other’s, simply something that works for me. I’m not here to judge.

But then she goes on about how “wanting to be wanted” pretty much makes you a whore (my words, not hers; her words were “immodest” and “reach out to any man”). She criticizes finding “the act of being wanted sexually arousing,” stating that there is no moral outlet from this arousal except in the marriage bed.

See, I didn’t realize until right about here that Monge really believed masturbation was a bad thing. I thought her stance was that they were wrong, and it was natural for a woman to have a libido and embrace it. That it was necessary to become a passionate wife.

Nope. Her position is that we need to learn about self-discipline and monitor our cycles, so that we can “avoid temptation” and learn to “tame our lust,” so we don’t rub one down. And she’s tricky. See, she’s not only telling you to control yourself, but she knows the longer you go without it, the longer you fight it, the weaker it gets. Ignore your libido long enough, and it will fade away.

What. The. Fuck. You want me to fuck my husband whenever he wants. You want me to keep him excited with new things so he stays interested and doesn’t stray. But you want me to kill my own sex drive. You want me to cum like a banshee for my husband, embrace the “immense pleasure of the female orgasm” but don’t want me to touch it myself, learn about my own body, what makes it feel good, how to make those very same female orgasms happen.

But of course. I forgot. Perhaps if I pray hard enough, perhaps if I’m pious enough, if I “discipline” myself enough. Perhaps then God would grant me multiple-toe-curling-hanging-from-the-rafters orgasms. Perhaps I am wrong.

Yeah. Fuck that. I’m not leaving this in God’s hands.

See, my God, the one that’s in my heart, he/she/it doesn’t care if I touch myself. I am not to be ashamed of my body and things that bring it pleasure. Sex and masturbation and orgasms are not bad things. They are wondrous things. They are things that make life amazing.

Especially in the union of a marriage (or any other relationship for that matter). Having sexual desire, wanting your man, wanting your man to want you, these are many of the things that keep good marriages together. They are things that keep couples talking and intimate. Keeps them happy and home. Things that make marriages last.

And it’s bullshit like this that keeps women down, keeps them ashamed of themselves and their bodies. Makes them want to fuck in the dark and fake orgasms.

It’s information like this that give so many of us a bad name, branding us because we enjoy our bodies, for ourselves, yes, but also for our partners, so we can enjoy sex with them more, give and take pleasure together. Share in something awe-inspiring instead of laying there like a dead fish.

It’s fucking Bullshit.

A Quick Dip: Erotica

“Come on, hon.” She walks towards the edge of the water, “I thought you wanted to go for a swim.”

Will follows and drops their towels at the water’s edge, watching Tess’s body move into the water, moon light reflecting off her curves. I’m one lucky bastard. 

He reaches Tess with a few quick strides and dives into the water. He surfaces with a splash, water flying in every direction. She shakes her head at him, loving how Will can be so carefree, how he can let go and act like a kid, relishing in the joys of life. Tess smiles to herself, and dives in, following her husband to where the water reaches her chest.

When she’s close enough, Will grabs her, pulling her to him. He runs his hands over her hips, down over the cheek of her ass, the roughness of his hands sending chills though her wet body. He settles it on her upper thigh, caressing her before he pulls her legs up, wrapping them around his waist.

“Hi,” she says, smiling at him.

“Hi,” he responds with a spontaneous grin. His hands now free, he moves them across her body, her flesh soft beneath his touch. His head dips towards hers, his lips grazing against hers, barely touching as his hands continue to explore.

“God, you’re beautiful,” he mumbles against her skin, his lips playing havoc with the skin of her collar bone. His tongue darts out, tasting the salty wetness of her skin. His teeth scrape against her flesh, leaving a trail of tiny bites and marks.

Tess moans in response, shifts her weight around him, giving him better access to her neck. His hands work her back as his lifts her partially out of the water. The top of her bikini falls at the same time his mouth lowers to her nipple, pulling it deep into his mouth.

Tess gasps, and starts to protest.

“Shh…” Will says around her nipple and his hands slip beneath the fabric of her bottom, his fingers grazing along her lips, and he can feel her moisture mixing with the water surrounding them.

Tess glances around and realizes they’re no longer in front of the resort. Will has moved them a few hundred yards down the coast and the beach in front of them is deserted. Smiling, she reaches between them, her hand slips beneath his waist band and wraps around his cock, rock hard against his body. Will groans against her breast, one hand with a firm grip on her ass, giving her a squeeze of approval as she starts to stroke him, her hand slipping over the tip of his cock. She dips her hand lower, cupping his balls in her palm, massaging them.

Will pulls the string at her right hip, and the bottom of Tess’s suit falls to one side, pinned between their bodies. Will moves her, raising his mouth from her breast to her lips, forcing her to let go of his cock when he pulls her tight against his chest. He holds her in place with one hand, while the other guides his cock to her pussy. He holds it there, rubbing his head against her clit, hard and exposed, until she’s grinding against him, her pussy greedy for his cock.

Will laughs against her mouth, her eagerness exciting him. Tess tries to move, slip down on his cock, but he holds her tight, teasing her, not allowing her the penetration she wants. Her nails dig into his shoulders and he nips at her lower lip in response. He lowers his cock, not to enter her, but to rub it along the length of her slit, up and back over and over again until she’s moving against him, keeping pace.

His free hand pulls her against him, but still he doesn’t enter her. He moves back to her clit, pushing his cock hard against her nub. Tess’s breathing changes and Will knows she’s about to cum.

“Cum baby, out here in the water for me,” he whispers against her ear before he lowers his head, his teeth against the sensitive skin at the side of her neck. His words push her over the edge and her climax rips from her body until she’s thrusting against the head of his cock.

He can feel her muscles clamping and spasming and he can’t hold back any longer. He thrusts deep inside her and the warmth of her pussy overwhelms him. Both of his hands grip her hips and he moves her up and down his cock, pounding into her.

Another orgasm starts to build and Tess arches back as it racks through her body. The water holds her boyant, floating and Will continues to move her, making her fuck him harder than she’d be able to do on her own. Her pussy works his cock, squeezing him tight, and Will takes her nipple between his teeth. He bites down, hard, at the same time his balls tightening, pulling against his body.

His hands tightens, his fingers digging into her skin, as he forces her to move harder and harder against him, going so deep he can feel the tip of his cock hitting her cervix. Within moments, his orgasms hits, cum jetting from his cock deep into her cunt.

His pace slows, making her movements more shallow, until they both still, arms wrapped around each other’s waist, lips searching for the other’s, as the waves and water lap agains them.

Back End Play

SE-2934-25-3Although I love getting new toys, the plug I received this month from Cal Exotics sat for almost a week without making its way to our bed.

This evening, before dinner, I mentioned to M that I needed to review it tonight. So after homework and showers and goodnight kisses, we finally made it upstairs to our bedroom. And yet there I sat, not moving towards sex or sex toys or passion of any sort.

But leave it M. He asked for the lube and picked up my new Coco-licious Back End Play butt plug.

  • A silicone plug, the Back End Play comes in either black or pink, and has a flared base that can also serve as a suction cup on a flat surface.

“Give me your ass,” he says.

I roll up on my hands and knees. He begins to rub it against my ass, spreading lube. It seems like it’s been so long since we’ve had any ass play, so long since I’ve been stretched and filled.

He pushes it. Waits, then pushes again. It starts to slip in, and it hurts. It’s been too long.

  • This plug measures from top to bottom at 4.25 inches in length and 1.5 inches in girth.

He senses my hesitancy, and his fingers dip down to my pussy, moving in my wetness, and slip between my lips to play at my opening.

It starts to feel good and I moan as I push back against him. He pushes deeper, and slips a finger inside, telling me what a tight girl I am.

I rearrange, giving him a better angle at my ass. He pushes, and the first bulb slides in.

  • The Coc0-licious plug has two egg-shaped bulbs, making it so one SE-2934-25-3_1goes in, then the other. The top bulb is set at an angle, which can alter the feeling, depending how you have it positioned.

I gasp as my body adjusts to the invasion.

His fingers begin working on my pussy again, slipping to my clit, rubbing me until I’m a mess, moving against him, pushing back on the plug as it stretches me again, wanting more.

Before I know it, the plug’s in and I feel M’s cock pressing against my cunt as his hands grip my hips, holding me in place as he pushes in.

It’s so tight and I can feel him moving against the plug and it feels so different and I’m so full.

My head drops to the bed and my hand drifts between my legs feeling him stretch me, move inside me.

I’m cumming, squeezing against him. He pulls back, the head of his cock balancing at my opening, where the plug makes my pussy extra tight against him. He moves, a few inches in, a few inches out.

  • The unique design of the Back End Play adds a different sensation to sex than a traditional shaped plug. Because of the taper and flare, and the thicker than normal tip of the plug, sex with it in takes on a whole new feeling.

And just that motion, feeling where our bodies join, throws me over the edge. As I clamp down on him, my hands fisted in the sheets, M pulls out, and I topple, juices splashing against my hand as he thrusts back in, fucking me harder.

  • I often have trouble with plugs slipping out while I’m cumming, but this little guy stayed in place rather well. I would like to have a longer neck at the base, just for comfort and fit, but this was not unbearable.

He leans down on me, pressing me between his body and the mattress, and his hand replaces mine, toying with my clit, making me squeeze and convulse around him. His lips are on my neck, on my ear, moving and tasting.

Soon the plug’s removed and we’re back on our knees, his hand fisted in my hair, holding me in place, making me cum again and again as he takes his pleasure in my body, moving me to his command, using me to bring himself to a climax, his cock pulsating inside me with his release.

  • Overall, this plug is a fun toy to add to a toy box. Due to the design and thickness of the plug, I wouldn’t recommend it to beginners or those unfamiliar with anal play.
  • Like most silicone toys, this guy collects lint and small dust particles, so make sure you clean it before and after use with a toy cleaner or soap and water. Don’t use silicone based lubes and keep it away from other silicone based toys.
  • Although we didn’t try it out as such, my guess is this could hit a guy’s p-spot pretty damn well. Just sayin.


Handling Sub-Drop

M and I typically drink on Friday nights, me to forget my week at work and other people’s troubles, and M to appease me. When we find ourselves in bed after our indulgences, we tend to fuck for hours, sometimes so long that the first strands of morning light are peeking through our window.

I spend most Saturdays hung over and miserable.

And I’ve never really thought twice about it. Even if I don’t over indulge on alcohol, between the lack of sleep and dehydration caused by “lost fluids” I’ve never questioned the hangovers.

But a few weeks ago, I stumbled upon a reblog at phoenixasubbie that lead me to this post by Corey (go read it, I’ll wait), and it got me thinking.

Perhaps I wasn’t so much hung over as dropping. My mind fought this for awhile, as most nights we don’t scene or even play heavy, so there would be no reason for me to be dropping. But then when the next week rolled around, and I had only 2 drinks the night before, but felt miserable and depressed and hating on everything the next day, I had to consider it.

And while there may not have been ropes and beatings, clamps or corsets, there was many, many orgasms, sometimes lasting minutes at a time, building and growing until there is nothing left.

I float, so why couldn’t I drop?

So I decided to give Corey’s suggestions a try. Last weekend, before I even got of bed on Saturday morning, my hand made its way between my legs, and although my clit was ultra sensitive, I was able to climax before I got out of bed.

And amazingly, I felt great throughout the day: my head was not in a bad place, I had energy and motivation, and all-in-all, I felt pretty damn good.

Fast-forward to yesterday. I woke up, tired and exhausted. I could hear the children playing downstairs, but was hesitant to get up and start the day, preferring to stay in the warmth of my bed. Soon, M makes his way upstairs, and sits down next to me.

“You gonna get up today?” he asks.

“Um… eventually.”

He smiles down at me. I smile back.

“Remember what I told you last week about the possibility of me dropping, and I was thinking morning orgasms could help?”

He nods, and I watch as his hand glides over his cock, already growing at my words. “I remember.”

“You wanna help?”

Without any hesitation, he has me on my knees, my ass in the air and his fingers are moving over my skin, down my back, across my ass, between my lips. He’s hard in moments and pressing against my wetness.

10 minutes later, I’m dressed and already feeling much, much better.


I can’t yet say that the morning orgasms are helping with the drop, as I’ve just started experimenting with the idea, but so far, so good. *And who doesn’t like morning orgasms anyway*

But it makes sense. I, like Corey, believe that sub-drop occurs due to the massive amounts of hormones that are released during intense play, and when your brain gets back to normal, you go through what can only be explained as a withdrawal.

The morning orgasm lets me get some of those feel-good chemicals released, and it makes my brain happier, therefore I feel better.

I’m going to continue with this idea, and see what comes (cums) from it.


When I first started blogging, my ultimate goal was to get my own url. Lovesexandmarriage was taken by some religious woman who never undated the site and I was right to assume she would eventually stop paying for it and the site would again be open. I decided I would sit and wait, and when it became available, I’d move on to bigger and better things and become a real blogger.

About a year ago, the site went down, but it still wasn’t available due to some stupid thing or another. I was able to research when it would be available for purchase (I have no idea how), and April 2014 is what stuck in my head. It’s been lurking there ever since.

Getting anxious, this week I sat down with a mission to prepare to move the blog. First step, make sure I was right on the date. I went to the site, and lo-and-behold, the url was already free for purchase.

For $2,250.

What. The. Fuck.

Now, if you’ve never looked into this kind of thing, you must understand that I can purchase the same title with a .org or a .net, or even caitlynmcconnell(dot)com for $4 from a hosting company. And yes, there would be fees for hosting and storage and what not (which would total about $65 for start up, and that includes extra perks), but the $2K above doesn’t include any of that stuff either.

So now I find myself in a bit of a conundrum and I don’t know what to do. I don’t trust WP and I want to have the freedom to do what I want to do. But now I can’t do it the way I want to and I’m a bit pissed off about the whole situation and I can’t do a damn thing about it.

Which means I’m faced with a choice… Do I continue here and hope for the best, or do I change it up and proceed forward, just on a slightly different titled path?

If I’m honest with myself, I’m somewhat afraid of the switch. I’m afraid of the task ahead of me if I do move. I’m afraid it will be like starting from scratch. And I just don’t know if I’m up to that right now.

*sigh* Decisions are the worst.

e[lust] # 56

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Superotica Valentine – Day 7
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This one’s for you
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Monogamous, Kinky Couple-Friends
As Lust Fades
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When Did You Realize You Were Dominant?
How to Fake an Orgasm
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Anal Toys

FinalClubLogoI have recently received the privilege of becoming one of Cal Exotic’s Sexperts. Which means *Yay* sex toy reviews!

This month I received Booty Call’s Booty Vibro Kit, which includes a small butt plug, a plug with four “beads” and a bullet vibrator. Both plugs are made of black (or pink) silicone, smooth and soft to the touch. The ends are silicone circles, made to fit the bullet, but also a perfect fit for a finger during partner play.kit

The first is small, 3.75″ in length and barely an inch in diameter at its thickest. The flare is minor and some *read: I* may struggle with it staying in. Personally, it is too small for my preference. Don’t get me wrong, it feels good, and the size is great for in and out play, particularly due to the small flare. But as far as simply wearing it as a plug, once I have a few orgasms, the thing is pushed out without me even realizing it.

If you’re a beginner though, this is a perfect piece to get started with. It’s not intimidating and doesn’t take a lot to get it in. Although it doesn’t stretch you to the point of being uncomfortable, it does have a surprising fullness for its size.

Now the other one, the one with the beads, I like this one a lot. Coming in at 4.5″, its a little longer and has the benefit of the four balls. They go up in size, much like anal beads, the largest being 1.25″ in diameter. Pull this little guy out at certain “opportune” times, and it will soon become one of your favorites.

The bullet runs on 2 AAA batteries and has a wheel to control the speed. The vibration range is surprising and has quite a bit of power at its highest setting. But beware, it is not quiet, so don’t try sneaking it under the covers and expect to not get caught.

Overall, the kit is a perfect anal starter kit for the beginner. But anyone with much anal experience, or who likes to feel a stretch, will be left looking for bigger things.

**Oh, I almost forgot. Don’t ever use silicone lube with silicone toys. It ruins them and makes an icky mess. Store them so they aren’t touching, as silicone sometimes does weird things and molds together. Other than that, silicone is about as safe as it comes and my favorite sex toy material.**