Date Night

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The last few posts have been kind of raunchy, so tonight I’m going a different direction and talking about date night.  It’s an important aspect to any LTR, and keeps us in touch with one another.  M and I don’t do it as often as we should (I’m recommending at least once a month), but when we do, it’s always a blast.  So, call a babysitter, pull out your little black dress, and head out on the town… or to your favorite picnic spot… or to your favorite hotel.

Having a date night allows you and your lover to reconnect.  We all have busy lives:  stress from work, running with the kids, the gas bill.  I know couples who are lucky to see each other a few hours a day.  How well can you connect, emotionally, in only a few hours a day with the chaos of life all around you?  Date night allows you to not worry about the broken down dish washer or the science project that exploded in the kitchen.  It’s a time to focus on just each other and what makes your relationship great.

If you’ve read my blog, you’ve realized by now that I’m hyper-sexual and preoccupied with sex most of time.  It’s no different if I’m planning a night for M and I.  For me, my favorite date night is actually spent at home.  If I can find someone to take the kids, then M and I are alone.  We can have a few drinks and don’t have to worry about driving or having a DD.  We can light a fire in the fireplace, lay a blanket down on the living room floor, and eat out of the ice cream container.  We can have raunchy, loud sex, where ever we want in the house and we don’t ever have to worry about waking anyone up or being interrupted.  We can use our toys without forgetting something at home (because you never can tell what you’ll be in the mood for).  And we can sleep in as long as we want in the morning without having to get up and pack our stuff like we would if we were in a hotel.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against staying in hotels, but give me my own bed any day of the week (along with the straps connected to the headboard).

I recently discussed date night with a friend who has two kids.  We talked about how hard it is to find babysitters that are reliable and trustworthy and we came up with our perfect scenario.  Once a month, her kids can stay at my house, and once a month, my kids can stay at her house.  This gives us both time with our men to do what we will.  What a perfect solution.  I can’t wait to get it started (and if you’re reading this babe, you know I love you ).

A date night bonus:  you can pretty much guarantee you are going to get laid.  If you are not getting laid on date night, then you and your lover

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might need to have a long heart-to-heart (or maybe I should say prick-to-pussy).  And knowing that you are going to get some allows you to prepare.  You can have your legs shaved and your pussy bare.  You can wear sexy panties and a garter belt, or no panties at all.  You can think about it all day, flirt with your partner throughout the day, because you know some lovin’ is  happening later that night.  And thinking about it, preparing for it, that makes it so much hotter when you finally get busy.

Anyway, it’s easy to let your relationship settle once  you’ve been in it awhile.  We fall into patterns and habits and we stop working at the relationship.  This leads to staleness and boredom.  Those are not two words that I want associated with my marriage.  I want exciting, sexual, fulfilling.  And date night gives me the opportunity to achieve those.  And a few orgasms while I’m at it!