The Perfect Blow Job

 

Okay, so maybe a chick shouldn’t be writing about the perfect blow job.  It very well might be a job for a man.  But I’m not 100% sure on that.  I

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don’t know if M has the slightest clue what I’m doing with my hands, mouth, tongue when I’m going down on him.  So, I’m going to try my best, give you all the advice I can think of…  Because being able to give good head is important.  It’s important for your man.  It’s important for your self-esteem, and it’s important to your own sexuality. 

I personally love to give head.  It’s turns me on immensely.  I can start sucking M’s dick and within five minutes I’m dripping wet, ready to fuck like crazy, and I haven’t even been touched, except maybe for a hand rolled up into my hair.  One of the reasons I love it so much is because it’s sexy to give someone so much pleasure.  I love to see him with his head thrown back, eyes shut, and mouth open.  Just feeling, not thinking, no emotion, just pure sensation.  It makes me mad with lust.  To know that I’m doing that; there’s nothing better (well…  maybe that’s a little far-fetched, but you get my drift).

So how do you get there..

Use Your Tongue

A good blow job does not just start with you pulling him deep into your mouth.  Instead, start slow, using your tongue on him.  I typically run my tongue up and down the length of M’s dick, as this allows for some lubrication that will allow my lips to slip over his cock much easier.  After that, I like to start at the top and work my way down.  Lick him around the head of his dick, like a lollipop. With my tongue out, he likes the way it looks.  The head is often the most sensitive area on his package, so pay some attention to it.  Lick around the gland, and around the rim.  If he’s circumcised, the area where his scar is, tends to be very sensitive.  Play with it, lick it, tickle it, press your tongue against it.  This gets him warmed up and ready for you to take him in your mouth.  But still, don’t forget to use your tongue, it’s just as important now as it is at the beginning.

  • While he’s in your mouth, keep your tongue pressed against the bottom of his cock.  This will add extra pressure, intensifying the feelings.
  • Move your tongue around inside your mouth.  M likes it when I run the tip of my tongue up and down along his cock while I bob my head up and down on it.
  • As you pull your head towards the tip of his cock, swirl your tongue around the head before you plunge back down.
  • Mix it up.  Try different things.  Watch for his responses so you know what he’s enjoying and what he’s not.

And Your Hands…

Your mouth is smaller than the average penis by about 3 inches.  And as much as you think you may want to deep throat, it really is not necessary and is harder than it looks (unless you’re a porn star).  The easiest way to stimulate his whole package, when only half of it fits comfortably into your mouth is to use your hands.  The easiest technique, in my humble opinion, is to wrap one of your hands around the base of his penis (depending on his size, you may not need your whole hand-change if necessary) so that when you take him as deep as comfortable for you, your lips are hitting the top of your hand.  As you move your head up and down, have your hand follow right behind.  This is a basic move that you can modify in many ways.  And if you let him fuck your mouth, I definitely suggest using this move so you don’t gag.

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  • Most of the time, it will be natural for you to apply more pressure, both with your lips and your mouth, on the way up to the tip, then “loosen” up on the way down.  Try switching this around.  Make the motion up the “softer” of the two, and tighten your hand/lips on the way down.  This is different from what is normally done, even in a hand job, so it will give him some new sensations.
  • Make sure that there is lots of lubrication.  Twist your hand around his penis back and forth.  If you need a break with your mouth, put one hand above the other and twist them in opposite directions.  Vary your pressure and gauge his response to see what feels best for him.
  • Again, mix it up while you’re going down on him.  Change the pattern of your movement, change the speed, change the strength of your grip.  See what he likes and go from there.

And Lips

Your lips might be one of the best secrets you have while performing a blow job.  Unless M is fucking my face or I’m bobbing my head super fast, I try to keep my lips tight on his cock.  To the point that when his cock pulls out of my mouth, it makes a “pop” noise.  Make an “Oh” shape with your lips and keep some pressure on his cock.  Everyone knows that boys like a tight pussy, so why wouldn’t they like something tight while they are getting their dicks sucked as well.  The issue that arises, for me at least, is after about four-five minutes, my lips will tend to go numb.  So again, mix it up, keep it fresh.

Don’t Swallow…  Yet

When sucking his dick, your may drool a little.  This is good.  Don’t swallow it, let it drip down over his cock and your hands.  Spit makes a fantastic lubricant, so what ever you do, don’t swallow the excess fluid that your producing while blowing him.  If your mouth starts to get dry, push a little deeper until you gag a bit.  Not only will he like this (at least M does), but your gag reflex will make you produce more saliva, giving you more spit and lube, because there isn’t such a thing as too sloppy.  If this isn’t working and you continue to end up with cotton mouth, grab a flavored lube and spread it around.  I wish I had something to recommend to you here, but I don’t really like to use lube while sucking M’s cock, so I don’t know what would be best.  If anyone does, please leave it in the comment section.  (Thanks!)

It’s Not Just the Dick

A good blow job is so much more than sucking his dick.  It’s playing with him completely.  Turning him on and making him feel great.  Therefore, if you are solely focused on just his cock, you need to expand your territory.

  • His balls are sensitive, so make sure you are watching for his responses with what you are doing, as different men like different things.  Play with his boys in your hand, gently rolling them around.  Lightly tickle the skin of his sack, gently massaging his balls through the skin.  Take one ball in your mouth, one at a time, sucking gently, using your tongue while you stroke his cock with your hand (remember to treat them both equally).  Run your tongue up the seam between them.  Play.  See what he likes.
  • His taint, the area between his balls and his ass, is very sensitive.  When you press on it, it will gently massage his prostate.  But be careful here.  Most men like it, but some are not comfortable with it, for one reason or another.  But I’d try it, if I were you.  Because if he’s going to like it, he’s really going to like it.  You can lick it, rub it with your fingers, and press against it.  See what works best for your man.
  • His nipples.  Reach up and play with them while his cock’s in your mouth.  Men’s nipples are often overlooked, but they actually have more nerve endings than women’s.  Figure out what works for him.  M loves to have his nipples played with, pinched, twisted, lightly pulled, sucked on, but nothing too hard (me on the other hand…  but that’s for a different post).
  • Tread carefully with this one…  His ass.  Like women’s, a man’s anus is filled with nerve endings and can be very sensitive and pleasurable.  But like women, not every man will enjoy this.  I’d suggest you discuss this with him before you go there.  But if he is receptive to the idea, this can bring him a lot of pleasure.  You can lightly press against it, rubbing his anus.  You can lick it, as the area close to the anus is very sensitive.  But again, proceed with caution.

Love It

One of the most important aspects of a good blow job is that you enjoy it.  Make sure that you let your man know that you enjoy sucking his cock, that it turns you on.  Make eye contact with him, pull his cock out of your mouth and smile at him.  Tell him how much you love to suck his dick.  Tell him how big and hard he is.  While sucking on him, moan with him deep in your mouth.  Touch yourself.  Tell him how wet you are.  You get the picture.  Enjoy it and he’ll enjoy it more.

Finishing Him Off

Make sure you talk to him about cumming in your mouth or not before you get there.  Some guys become offended if you don’t swallow their cum (but if you don’t want to, it’s okay not to do it, just make sure to explain to him that it’s not personal).  Others may want to cum on your tongue, face, or tits.  But talk about it before the event happens.  M rarely likes to cum in my mouth.  He likes me to blow him, then he’ll fuck the shit out of me before he cums.  If he does cum in your mouth, I like to make sure that I brace my hand between my lips and M’s body, so that I can control how deep he gets; I gag if he shoots his load at the back of my throat.  Once he cums, keep him  in your mouth for just a little bit while he goes soft.  Don’t move around too much, as his cock will be very sensitive.

Final Thoughts

Practice, as once you get good at sucking cock, you will come to love it.  Follow his lead, watching what turns him on.  Ask him what feels good.  Do one thing and then another and ask which one he likes better.  Ask if there is a certain way he likes touched or licked or kissed.  Change your tempo and squeeze.  And you can be much more rough, especially with your grip, then you’d originally think.  Watch how he handles himself and you’ll notice that he is much rougher on his cock than your are.  And finally, relax and enjoy it!

 

36 responses to “The Perfect Blow Job

  1. Excelent advice. If I may add a couple of things that work for me …
    You can use your teeth as well, or fingernails.
    If he’s un-cut, pull back his foreskin as far as it will go and then focus some attention on what is effectively the inside of his hood – except now it’s the outside … if you see what I mean. This can be an incredibly sensitive are.
    If his balls hang low enough, you can wrap your index finger and thumb around his sack above them and gently tug on them. If you can get both of his balls in your mouth, that’s great too – just try not to bite too hard ;)
    I concur entirely on the topic of rimming – it feels awesome (if you’re into it) but be aware of hygene issues – make sure he’s clean first if you’re going to lick his sphincter, Some people recommend an oral dam, but I have no eperience of these.
    The best point you make is enjoy it. I get no sense that my Wife enjoys it, and that detracts considerably from the process.

    • Thanks for the comment Accidental. I agree about the teeth and nails. I use my teeth often, especially on M’s freneum (where his scar is from his circ). But I didn’t necessarily want to recommend that… I didn’t know how many guys actually enjoy that and so many people always say, “no teeth.”
      And I didn’t even think to discuss an un-cut guy, as I don’t really have experience there. But, ladies, just remember that he is very sensitive there, so watch for his responses.
      I liked this post… I’m thinking M may be getting a hell of a blow job tonight! ;)

      • I guess the teeth / no teeth issus is much ike anything else, including licking pussy – it’s all about feedback.
        Having read about your attention to detail, I’m just a little envious of M having such a consumate technician working between his thighs. Obviously you enjoy the task, but what would you say is the general feeling amongst women about cumming in their mouth / face / tits? (My experience of this is varied.)

      • General feeling? I don’t really know. I swallow because it turns M on. Because it turns him on, it turns me on. But… in reality, it’s not necessarily that great. It’s not like cum tastes like candy afterall. :) And sometimes, for me anyway, it takes effort to actually swallow it. But it’s not horrible either. So the excitement it brings me is worth the discomfort of taste and will. Cumming on the face… As long as it doesn’t get in your eyes, it’s not too bad. It SUCKS if it gets in your eyes. It will burn like hell, then they will be really bloodshot for the rest of the day (which particularly sucks if it’s morning sex). On my tits? Sure. If M is going to cum on me, I would probably prefer it be on my tits. Unless I want him to finsih in my mouth…

  2. Another great article/topic (and comments).

    CIM (Cum-In-Mouth) is a particular subject that’s arose in my R/S at the moment. I’ve been with my GF for 11 months now and she’s only started to stress how much she hates swallowing. And how she’d done it for the first several months to “make a good impression”.

    She’s backed this up however, by saying she’s always had a problem swallowing things, be it, liquid medicine, pills to semen itself, so it’s not a personal attack on me.

    However, since she has started spitting it out, I do feel rather rejected and no longer enjoy the process of receiving blow jobs any more. It’s become a no-mans-land almost.

    As for cumming over the face, I’ve never done that to her, especially because it was the only way her ex would finish and she hated it. Plus, I’ve done it with ex-partners before and it’s so degrading, I couldn’t do it to my GF, I love her too much.

    I tried cumming over her tits a month ago, and even that felt a bit degrading. I didn’t enjoy it so much.

    Want her to give me a hand job until I CIM, as I think that’d be hot (in theory) but then again the actual act may be degrading. This is all trial and error.

    Anyway, great post! M is a very lucky guy.

    P.S.

    Btw, after reading your article on Squirting, I decided to try it all on my GF and she squirted all over my face for the first time. She loved it. I fucking loved it. Cheers!

    • Loki–Woo-Hoo! I’m so happy for both you and your gf. It’s exciting, isn’t it! But be careful; it becomes addicting. I love hand jobs that end in my mouth. This may work well for your gf, or anyone else who has trouble swallowing. I like to put my tongue out and have M cum on that. If I don’t want to swallow, it can just kind of “roll off.” And he still gets a great cum shot image.
      And, as always, thanks for commenting!

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  6. My Boyfriend things I’m the best cocksucker he’s ever had and given that he’s 17 years older than I am, that’s a hell of a compliment.

    I love your article here. It’s wonderful! I love that you speak so frankly about these things. I look forward to catching up on your blogroll and reading future posts.

    By the way, Accidental’s comments about teeth and fingernails… since I discovered that even the most “NO TEETH!” adamant man loves a little light scraping, I’ve never considered not using either.

    One last thing, rubbing the head against the ridges of the roof of your mouth gives them an unexpected, wholly different sensation that men can’t quite figure out but know they LIKE. I discovered this by accident several years ago and have been making men gasp since. :-D

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  8. Elemi Fuentes

    This post is excellent. And so is your blog for what I’ve seen so far.

  9. All men are different. For myself, I hate it when my wife uses her hands in place of her entire mouth! Hands are for ball-play, caressing, and teasing other areas of my body (within reach), but NEVER for “driving a stick-shift”! Oh, and hands (and fingers) off and out of the back door! Cheek play, fore-sure, but no entrance back there! If she can’t fit it all in yet, that’s fine, but I’m not a standard, I’m an automatic!

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  11. Very good Blog, although it is true every woman cannot give good head, one has to really enjoy giving oral.
    The same with a man, not every man can eat pussy, it takes a man who really gets off on it..

  12. Love your post because its a great way for someone to start and then they can adjust to how the man wants it because they all want and need it differently. :-)

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  14. Hey, great article. A couple of things I love that you have mentioned – the importance of having fun. The other thing you said – it’s not just about the dick. So true. You said it in the having fun part but giving great head and it being about more than just his cock is that it’s very mental. That’s why showing you are having fun when you are doing it is so important. Right! Because when you are giving a guy head and he sees that you are loving it, he’s going to enjoy it so much more. Enjoying things together is so much more fun than doing it solo, and if you aren’t enjoying it too, then he has to enjoy the blowjob by himself.

    Anyway, love the blog, keep it up.

    • I love this, I did a reblog sometime ago. A man can tell if the woman is really into it, or if she is just doing it to please. In my 50 years I have met 2 women who could finish me off just by giving head no hands just a beautiful mouth. My first live in Slave, and now my wife and Slave. I knew from the first time yup shes a keeper.
      Although sex is not everything, it does play a huge part in a successful relationship, both have to be willing to please.
      I like hearing stuff like this from women it is good to hear what the other side is thinking/.
      Keep up the awesome work here,
      Just think if every man in the world could wake up to slow head before getting out of bed there probably would be no wars. What a way to wake up.
      Much Love
      Vile

    • Thanks Alle, and sorry it took so long to respond! And you said it perfect, if I’m having fun, I guarantee he’s having fun! xoxo

  15. how does cum taste 🙊 i am so scared to try to swallow but when my boyfriend comes out of jail i want him to enjoy it and see that im up for whatever makes him happy

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