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If you haven’t been reading regularly, this is about a simple experiment entitled “9 Weeks to Better Sex.” Week 2 officially starts today. Before I get into what my goals are for the next seven days, I want to give you a quick run down of last week’s experiment. You remember my responses to the exercises, but a few things I noticed.
First, I love sober sex. I don’t know why it doesn’t happen more (full-time jobs, three kids, house, dog, cat, fish, life). When I’m drinking, I’ll make sure I get laid. I’ll be pushy. I’ll be demanding. If that doesn’t work, I’ll climb into bed and suck M’s cock til it’s hard, and by that point, he’s up (and awake). But, anyway, definitely had more sober sex. And it was good. Two nights of squirting (woo-hoo), and a sore pussy from it one morning. So there was more sex through the week (which wasn’t too hard to figure out… I just had to change my schedule a bit; stop what I’m doing when M goes to bed, fuck, then get back up and finish whatever it was that I was doing. Not rocket science, but just putting a little more effort towards having sex). Still no morning sex. M gets up at 5, me at 6:30ish (which actually means 7). A lot of nights, especially recently, I don’t go to bed til 1 or 2. I may be motivated, but I’m not that motivated!
So… Week 2: What You Need For Better Sex
Week two is about learning about yourself to have better sex. Woo-hoo!! Sounds like lots of masturbation! And I don’t know about all you readers out there, but if I don’t have sex on any given day, I’m most likely going to masturbate. Hell, on a good percentage of days that I do get laid, I still masturbate. What can I say? I like to cum.
The first two reading for this week include “Mapping out your sexual body” and “Writing your sexual history.” I have not read these yet, but at first glance, “Mapping” is about learning your own body, mentally and physically. “Writing,” however, is about writing, not just a list of partners and positions, but
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awakenings, education, influence. Uh-oh. I have a lot of secrets. Not horrible secrets, but things that are mine that I haven’t shared. With anyone. Ever. Real secrets. Things I’m not proud of… This one will be a big thing for me. I love to write, and it comes easy, but I think it will be hard, as it asks for a lot. I’m sure I’ll post it once it’s complete. Afterall, that is the point, both of this blog and this exercise. If I’m going to do it, I’m sure as hell going to take all of you along with me.
Next we have “Lies we’re told about sex” and “Masturbation Myths.” These seem to simply address sexual lies and myths. It seems pretty simple. I’ll let you know if there is anything overly exciting.
Get Your Hands Dirty
This section has two different components. The first is “Masturbation techniques” and discusses, obviously, how to masturbate. But it has sections titled “Advanced Masturbation” and “Talk dirty to yourself.” This is interesting, as I tend to go through phases with masturbation where I do it the same way, over and over again, for months on end. Then I’ll switch it to something else, and I do that for months and months. I feel that there maybe another Guide to Female Masturbation coming up soon…
The other part of this section is “Switch it up… With yourself.” It’s a brief article, discussing how we make sex habitual (damn, I just said that). It discusses simple ways to switch it up. Use your left hand instead of your right. Do it in a different place. Use different fantasies…
Better Sex Journal
This is a series of five questions to use as a reflection of the week, what you learned and accomplished, and an analysis of your sexual history… (Fuck, I really don’t want to do this!).
I find it interesting that I’m having such a strong negative response to this. I very rarely have any negative thoughts when it comes to sex. And, fuck, this whole week is about masturbating. How awesome is that! But this whole sexual history thing… It getting to me. I did not look at the Week Two agenda until I opened up wordpress and stated writing this post. Maybe that’s the problem. It caught me off guard. You, dear reader, are getting the raw thoughts as they are appearing. No filter. But the thing is, I don’t really know why I’m all geeked out about it. Fuck, I know my history. And, as much as I love sex, it’s not that exciting. I’ve had a limited amount of partners (5 boys 3 girls), only a few incidences of trauma, and some shitty stuff that I’ve done… I don’t know. I guess (hope) by next week, I’ll have it figured out. And you, dear reader, will be my confessional…