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I Came So Hard

Saturday night, M and I had a few drinks, hanging out together in the living room

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while he watched television and I read blogs. I had a few new toys that needed reviews, including these “Pleasure balls.” These babies weigh in at a hefty 11 oz, and blew my Lelo Luna Beads out of the water.

I’d had these balls in, which not only weighed heavily inside me, but ever so slightly moved, pressing and rolling against the walls of my pussy, for close to four hours by the time we made our way upstairs. I beat M to bed, and when he came in, I was ever so gently pulling on the string, bringing the lower ball to the edge of my cunt, squeezing to keep it in, then pulling even harder, the weight of the ball pushing its way through before pushing it back inside.

When he finally reached the bed, he settled between my legs, resting his head on his arm as he lounged perpendicular to me on the bed, watching the show I was presenting just for him. Soon, his hands replaced my own and I laid back, giving into the pleasure his manipulations were creating.

It gets a little blurry at this point. I remember asking him to collar me. I remember the cool feel of the leather slipping across my skin, the pull of it as he tightened and synched the buckle. Did he blindfold me? I can’t be sure. It seems he did, but perhaps my eyes were just closed.

I remember moving down the bed, and as his fingers played into the folds of my cunt, my lips wrapped around his cock, taking him long and deep into the base of my throat, pushing myself down on him until I involuntarily gagged on his length.

Before long, M’s hands strayed from my pussy and found their way to my collar. Using the D-rings on both sides of my neck, he took control of my motion, thrusting my mouth back and forth on his cock, setting my pace, determining how deep he would go. Then he would switch, holding me in place, fucking my mouth, taking it however he wanted. I can’t truly say if we were like this for a few minutes or an eternity as I became his toy, his to do with as he pleased, losing myself in nothing but Him.

Did he fuck me next or bury his head between my legs, I don’t know. The next vivid memory I have is being on my back, my legs bent, with his fingers expertly pressing into my g-spot, fluid spilling over onto his hand. Orgasms racked my body, one after another, over and over again. I came so many times, so close together, that I lost myself in the pleasure, becoming nothing but nerves and sensation.

Fluid poured from my body, spilling onto my stomach, his chest, covering us both with it’s salty scent. My orgasms became stronger, more frequent, giving me nothing but a few gasps of air between the peaks of ecstasy. I was cuming so hard, my juices were splashing onto my shoulders and cheeks.

How long before he was back inside, pumping into my body, I don’t know. I remember my arms wrapped around his neck, my legs around his body. I remember gripping him as tight as I could, my pussy clamping and spasming around his cock, milking him. I remember being on my stomach, his hand wrapped into my hair, holding me in place. I remember hands on my nipples, pulling and squeezing, until I was cuming from that alone.

On my back again, my legs spread, my knees bent back to each side of my head, M’s hands on my inner thighs as his cock slid in and out of me, slow and quick, hard and deep. When I called out that I was cumming, M pulled out of my wetness as I squirted again, covering us both in wetness. I heard his groan of pleasure as I felt his own sticky heat spill from his body and onto me, covering my cunt and my clit, as he thrust back into me, filling me one more time, moving with deliberation, pushing deep inside while my body spasmed around him one last time.

Collapsing on to me, we held one another, my body quivering endlessly without stimulation. I curled up next to him, sleepy and satiated and with spasms still racking my body, drifted off to sleep next to my Sir.

9 Weeks: Week 4 Orgasms

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Alright…  So after last’s weeks Bust, I was kind of looking forward to the next installment of the 9 Weeks to Better Sex.  It is officially Week 4 and it’s about orgasms, what they are and how to get them.  I guess this is important, but really, it didn’t teach me anything I didn’t already know.  Let me explain…

Now I don’t mean to brag, but I have a ton of orgasms.  And, now, it doesn’t take long for them to come along.  Especially if I’m fucking.  In a normal bout of sex, including foreplay, I’d say I come anywhere between 3 to 10 times, depending on what we’re doing and how long it takes.  When there’s marathon sex, I couldn’t even begin to guess.  10, 15, 30.  I really don’t know.  If we’re engaged in a kinky, randy fuck session, and I’m really aroused, after a handful of orgasms, sometimes I just become a bundle of nerves, sort of like I’m in a constant climax.  Jesus, it’s fucking great.

So, the information on orgasms didn’t really do a whole lot for me.  But maybe it will for some of you.  So I’ll give you the cliff-notes version of the information.

Erotic Education

  • Types — There is always talk of different types of orgasms:  clitoral, vaginal, G-Spot, anal (anal wasn’t mentioned, but I’ve had orgasms from anal sex, without other stimulation, so I threw it out there), etc.  Apparently there is no actual “official” evidence if there are different types of orgasm and no one can seem to agree.  The way I feel about it…  An orgasm is a gift.  Big or small, I’ll take all I can get.
  • If they aren’t happening — This talks about different reasons you aren’t cumming, including stress, pressure, health issues, medications.  Good to read if you’re not able to rub one down.  I’ve had those moments (I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Zoloft is the devil!) where no matter what I did, I couldn’t get off.  But I don’t really remember how I got over it or what changed.  But just remember, sex is still good, even without orgasms.  There is touching and kissing and rubbing and stroking and licking and…  Yep, no problem with orgasms…
  • First one — For those of you that have never had one.  Basically, you need to start masturbating.  Now.  I started orgasming through masturbation before I even kissed a boy with tongue.  I think the first time I actually tried, it happened.  I guess I’m a lucky girl.

Getting Your Hands Dirty

  • Building Better Orgasms — This is all about practice, practice, practice.  It has a really good exercise to try during masturbation.  Basic idea is to bring yourself to the brink, and then back off.  Then do it again.  And again.  For 10 times before you allow yourself to cum.
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    I made it to four.  No self-control with LSAM.  Sorry *shrugs*  Maybe I’ll try again, but once I’m that close, my vagina gets a brain of its own and just sort of takes over the rest of me…

  • Intercourse — Talks about ways to have orgasms through intercourse, and the difficulty that many women have.
  • G-Spot — Discusses the mystery of this wonder spot.  There are still people out there who don’t believe that it exists.  Apparently, they are either prudes or really shitty lovers.  Because it’s there.  Boy is it ever.
  • Multiple Orgasms for Men — Discusses the tantra principles behind multiple orgasms for dudes.  Apparently ejaculation and orgasm are not the same, but tend to just occur within moments of one another.  I’ve actually bought a book about this, but have gotten distracted by other BDSM reading.  I’ll let you know when I get back to it.  Maybe I can put M through some experiments.
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  • First orgasm, as mentioned above, I don’t remember specifically.  I’m sure I was in 6th grade, so either 11 or 12.  It was after reading a romance novel.  It was either from pressure cupping or riding the side of my water-bed.  And it was very intentional.
  • As much as I hate to admit it, I’ve faked orgasms.  How many, I don’t know.  Less than 30.  But I don’t do it anymore.  I won’t.
  • My own personal opinion of different types of orgasms…  Well, I’ve experienced orgasms in different ways, but I can not classify that they felt different, and in that same sense, sometimes the same type of stimulation will bring on a completely different level of orgasms.  I think they can be brought on any time of erotic touching and, if your head is in it, then it may not even need to be a traditional “erogenous” zone.
  • This question literally reads, “If you do like orgasms…”  What the fuck!  Who doesn’t like orgasms.  Dumbest statement ever!  Anyway, I love orgasms because they feel so damn good.  Because it is the ultimate hedonistic experience.  Because it turns him on.  Because, for a time, I do not have control of anything.  Because, for the briefest moment, I am nothing and everything all at once.

I know this is only week 4 out of 9, so I’m not even half way through, but I’ve been sort of disappointed in this thing so far.  And I guess if I didn’t get off so much, this one would have been way more interesting.

And really, if you’re sex life is kind of boring and you are looking to spice it up the 9 weeks could help.  If you are looking to take on something together to have more exciting sex because you are either embarrassed or super vanilla, then this might help.  But at this point, it’s not really doing much for me.  There have been some interesting pieces I’ve stumbled across doing it, but then there was the horrible exercise of week 2 (*shivers*).  But maybe I’m judging too quickly.  We’ll see what’s up for week 5.  Maybe it will be titled “Hanging from the ceiling” or something as equally off the hook!

A Bright Note in a Bad Month

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Just a brief moment that I thought I’d share.  Last night, I discovered two new things…

  • First.  I’m sort of surprised, but I’ve never watched porn of men masturbating.  Never.  I don’t know why.  I love to watch M stroke himself, love to watch him cum.  But, until recently, when I watch porn, I would tend to watch MMF, or some hard-core anal, or a really good blow job scene.  Then I started watching gay porn, and it changed my perspective, a lot.  Always having been auditory, I was in masturbation heaven.  Or at least I thought so, until last night.  Last night, stressed, I needed to cum to help me sleep.  M was already in bed and had been for hours.  I was going to have to do it old school, just me and my right hand.  My computer was lagging, and I was loosing my patience.  I didn’t want to search through multiple videos to find something exciting.  And then I saw this dude with a beautiful cock.  Hard, long.  Thick.  And he had both his hands wrapped around it.  The video was about 7 minutes long, and I thought that seemed just about right.  Figured I’d give it a chance.  Holy fuck!  I’ve been missing out on 20 fucking years of masturbation!  It was so fucking hot.  I couldn’t get over it.  My pussy was wet, my nipples were tight, and my fucking mouth was watering, literally, watching this dude stroke himself.  I couldn’t get enough.  My “7 minutes, cum and done” was out the window!  I watched video after video of men pleasuring themselves, making myself cum right along with them again and again.  And that, dear reader, was masturbatory heaven.
  • All that masturbation led to the second fantastic discovery.  A little while back, there was a comment conversation that led to this post on another of my favorite blogs.  I’ve squirted since I was a teenager.  It was always a random, uncontrolled event, and recently I’ve been working on techniques to aid my control, but I always needed direct G-Spot stimulation.  After reading Hy’s advice, I was able to squirt from clitoral stimulation, but still not on my own.  Until last night.  With the help of a fellow masturbating male (or 5) I freaking soaked myself and the blanket I was laying on.  The first time, I wasn’t even sure it happened.  The second, I was like “Holy Hell!”  And then I couldn’t stop.  I had to try again.  And again.  And then it was 2 AM and M has to get up at 3, so I figured I needed to head to bed…  And I laid there, smiling to myself, giddy with excitement…
So, in a month filled with uncertainties, stress, and general pissed-0ff-ness, I was so happy last night, discovering two new things about myself.  Both, dear reader, which came about because of you all…  Thank you.

A Guide to Female Masturbation

I don’t know how much of an issue this is, but I thought it was something I should maybe talk about…  female masturbation.  Some studies say

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as many at 58% of women don’t masturbate.  I can’t imagine a life without masturbation.  I’ve masturbated as long as I can remember, at least starting in my very early teens.  I read my first romance novel when I was in sixth grade.  I would stay up late, reading with a flashlight.  It seems so cliché, looking back, but I’m guessing that’s probably when it started.  I would sneak my mom’s PlayGirl magazines and always read the stories.  I would get wet, touch myself, but hadn’t really realized that there was more.  Then one day I read a story where a girl straddled a window while fingering herself (she was showing off for her sexy neighbor) and so I took my magazine from my bed, went to the bathroom, and straddled the side of tub.  And that is the only way I masturbated for the next, maybe, eight to ten years. 

I would use vibrators and such, but if I was doing it by hand, I would have to straddle something, riding my hand with two or three fingers in my pussy.  Then one day, probably around 20, I was living with a guy I dated, another couple, and one more guy.  There were five of us in the house with one bathroom.  It was hard enough to try to take a shit in private, let alone be able to get in the bathroom, have time to rub one down, and not be distracted enough for it to actually happen. I decided it sucked that I couldn’t just lay back and masturbate in bed.  I was then on a mission to learn to masturbate all over again.  It took awhile (like months), but I finally learned how to get myself off without having to use a vibrator and without having to “ride” something. 

How nice it is to just be able to lay back and rub my clit and cum.  I don’t know if this is a common problem among women, but I figure I’m not the only one out there.  So here you go ladies…  Masturbating tips and advice.

Start Off Right

  • If you’re trying something new, it will help if you can “set the mood.”  Relax.  Take a bath, lotion yourself up.  Make yourself feel sexy.  Have a little wine.  What ever it is that will get you ready.  Obviously, you don’t need to do this every time you masturbate, but, even if it’s not your first time, sometimes it’s nice to take your time and seduce yourself.
  • Fantasize.  Think about a really hot sex session you’ve had, or one that you’d like to.  If you prefer, read a sexy story or put in a porn that will turn you on.  I masturbate to porn a lot.  I like it.
  • Touch yourself.  If you are new to masturbating, start slow, touching yourself in different places and in different ways.  Tug on your nipples, rub your inner thighs.  Remember, it’s not just your clit and vagina.  I like to touch the outside of my pussy, cup my vulva, play with my outer labia, pulling on them just slightly.  I also play with my nipples a lot, especially once I’m excited, as it helps me to cum.
  • Try it in the tub.  Many women like to masturbate in the tub.  It helps you relax and bodies always feel sexy when they’re wet.  An old roommate taught me a bathtub technique once.  She would lay on her back with her feet up on the shower wall, with her pussy positioned under the faucet.  She would get the water just right so that it was hitting her clit over and over again.  It made her cum so quick.  I’ve tried it.  It feels great, but doesn’t work for me…  I tend to need a lot of pressure to cum, but it’s a great warm up.

Clitoral Stimulation

 

 

 

  • First, as with anything, it’s different for everybody.  What feels good for me, might not do the trick for you.  So play around.  See what feels good.  Experiment.
  • Figure 8.  Take a few fingers, and trace a figure eight around your pussy.  Start at the side of your clit, go up and around the hood, then cross back over, and run your finger(s) around the bottom of your vaginal opening.  Continue the pattern, modifying where you see necessary.  Try different pressures, speeds, directions.  Make little pit stops:  run a few circles around your clit, dip a finger into your pussy, do whatever feels good.
  • Spread ‘em.  Take your pointer and index fingers and use them to spread your outer lips apart.  Use your middle finger to play with your clit.  Rub it back and forth.  Do circles over it.  I once read that more women use a circular motion to cum than any other movement.  They also said that most circle to the right (clockwise if you are looking down at it).  This position also makes it very nice and easy to take that middle finger and insert it.  Pull up some of those pussy juices to keep your clit lubricated and slippery.
  • The hood.  Many women like to play with the hood of their clit.  Put your fingers on the skin surrounding your clit (sometimes, especially depending on arousal, it may be hard to do this because the clit engorges, swelling up past the skin), and rub your fingers lightly back and forth, making the skin massage your clit.  This is really useful if your clit is extra sensitive, as it takes away the direct pressure.

Vaginal Stimulation

  • I like to use two fingers, sometimes even three, when I finger myself.  Make sure that your nails are short and smooth, or you may cause yourself some pain here.  Start with one finger, and play, pushing it in and out of you pussy.  Depending on how that feels, add another or two.  Or three.  I like to press the heel of my hand against my clit and kind of grind on it, but that’s me.  You will need to find what works for you.  Some like an in-and-out motion, others like to move their fingers only on the inside, touching the vaginal walls. 
  • This can lead to G-Spot stimulation.  While touching your vaginal walls, massage the front wall, about two to three inches in (give or take in either direction).  As you become excited, you’ll feel an area that feels a little different–kind of like it has ridges on it.  That’s your G-Spot.  Massage it, trying different pressures.  It may become harder, and that is a good thing.  Continue to touch it, applying pressure.  If you relax and are really enjoying it, this can bring on female ejaculation.  I, myself, have sadly never been able ejaculate through masturbation, although M is able to make me squirt.  As I’m not familiar with making yourself squirt, I don’t really want to give too much advice on it.  If any of you readers out there have suggestions, please comment.  I’d be really excited if I could make myself squirt.  I don’t know if I’d ever even leave my bedroom.

Vibrators

  • Depending on what toys you have, you can use just about any of the above techniques with a vibrator, just make sure if you are
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    masturbating in the tub, you are using a water proof toy.  You can get vibrators for you clit, ones for penetration, some specially designed to hit your G-Spot, and some that do all of it.  One of my favorites is an attachment for my Wand, it massages my clit, has a G-Spot designed dildo, and a small plug that can get inserted in to my ass.  Play around.  Find what works for you.

  • A word of caution, especially for those new to masturbating.  A vibrator can make you cum much quick and harder than manual stimulation.  That’s fine.  But don’t solely rely on it.  Some women who only use a vibrator will get to the point where they must have it to cum, as it actually desensitizes the nerve endings.  And I don’t know about you, but I don’t ever want to have my pussy desensitized.

Final Thoughts

  • Remember–There is no right or wrong way to masturbate.  Everyone likes different things.  Many women add different props (pillows, bath tubs, electric toothbrushes…), use different positions, touch themselves in different places and in different ways.  Don’t be embarrassed.  Don’t feel guilty.  Pleasure yourself.
  • If you are just learning, take it slow.  Don’t try to get off, just do it to pleasure yourself.  When you first start, and are learning how to touch yourself and what works for you, it will feel good.  But it may take sometime to learn to bring you to climax.  Don’t stress about it.  Just take the pleasure and keep on practicing!
  • There are benefits to masturbation, other than the obvious one of pleasure, so do it for your health.  Masturbation helps you to get to know your body.  It can help you sleep at night.  It can lower your pain levels (temporarily).  It can reduce stress.  Self-awareness, less pain, more sleep, and stress reduction…  Who doesn’t want that.
  • The best part of masturbating…  learning what turns you on.  Knowing how you like to be touched.  And then being able to pass that information on to your lover.

Making her Squirt the First Time

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If you’ve never experienced female ejaculation, either as the giver or receiver, it’s about time to try.  But first, I want to give you a little bit of information to clear up many of the misconceptions many people have about squirting.  First and foremost, it is not urine.  Again it is NOT urine.  It is a clear fluid expelled from the urethra, very similar to men’s ejaculate, but without the sperm.  The fluid comes from the G-Spot, the female equivalent of a man’s prostate.  All women have a G-Spot, so it is technically possible for all women to have a gushing orgasm, although it is very hard for some.  The more in touch with her body a woman is,together with how comfortable she is with herself sexuality, the easier it will be for her to ejaculate.

Foreplay

Make sure you and your partner have talked about squirting and are both into making it happen.  If either partner is hesitant, it will make it harder to accomplish.  She needs to relax enough to let go and she needs to know that you are not going to freak out when she squirts all over you.  Once you know that you are going to make her ejaculate, plan it out.  Before the event gets started, make sure she goes to the bathroom.  This will help end her fear that she may pee, which will help her to relax once the time for her to cum arrives.  Make sure that you’re prepared.  You will need a bit of time, some lubrication, and a towel, as things are going to get messy.  Begin with foreplay, whatever it is that really turns your girl on.  Move slowly through it, taking your time, making sure that she is very excited before moving on to her G-Spot.

Stimulating Her G-Spot

I hope by now, you all know how to find a G-Spot, but if not, here we go.  Once you are both already aroused and excited, have your girl lay on her back on the bed, with her legs spread and knees up.  Use some lubrication, even if she’s already wet, as this may take a little bit and you want to make sure not to chaff her or make her sore.  Insert two fingers into her pussy, with your palm facing the ceiling.  Bend your fingers up towards her stomach.  Somewhere, about one to two inches inside her vagina (think of trying to touch the back of her clit), you should feel a spongy area.  Welcome to the G-Spot.  Using a “come here” type motion with your fingers (pulling up and in) massage this spot continuously.  In many women, it will swell and become hard.  This is good and you should notice that she is responding well to it.  Increase your pressure, and you can even place the heel of your other hand above her pubic bone (right above the hair-line) and press down slightly, which will increase her pleasure even more.  Don’t be afraid here.  Your touch should not be gentle because many women need a lot of stimulation  to squirt.  This video gives a great demonstration.

Squirting

As her G-Spot hardens, and her pleasure increases, she should begin to feel a pressure to pee.  Reassure her that this is normal and not to worry about it, that she’s not going to pee.  Encourage her to let go, and give in to the feeling.  If she continues to hold back, tell her how excited you are and how much you want her to cum.  If she hasn’t squirted by this point, have her bear down on her pelvic floor when she feels an orgasm approaching, which should move the process along.  And just because she orgasms does not mean that she’s not going to squirt.  A lot of times, she may need the orgasms to build on one another before she ejaculates.  So don’t stop your stimulation on her G-Spot just because she’s withering underneath your hands.   Be prepared.  The orgasm is often intense, unlike others that she has experienced. She will very well need a little time to recover.

Don’t become discouraged if it doesn’t happen the first time, as some women will have trouble.  But think of all the fun you’ll have trying again!