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Fundamentals of Nipple Torture

Nipple piercing

Nipple piercing (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Okay, so a little bit ago, I ran this post where I asked you, dear readers and kinky pervs, what you wanted to know about.  And basically, most of you brats gave me nothing (don’t worry, I still love you all!), but Gillian, bless her sexual soul, requested more information about nipple torture.  So it’s taken me a bit, and I’ve experimented myself with some things, and, alas, here we go, with a new post of the wonders of nipple torture!!


The Basics

Nipple torture, as the name describes, refers to the practice of inflicting pain to the nipples for sexual gratification.  While the breasts and nipples are sometimes very sensitive, and many cringe at the idea of rough play, you must keep in mind that nipples are designed for breastfeeding, which, believe me, can hurt like a mother fucker.  When breastfeeding, nipples will chafe, peal, and callous.  The average nipple torture, won’t come close to that.  But as always, take things slow the first couple times and communicate about what you are feeling…  Also, a woman’s breasts change throughout the month with her cycles.  So just because you like to have your nipples pulled as hard as they can be on Saturday night, does not mean that you are going to be able to stand that kind of pressure on Thursday afternoon.  **Once, while riding M’s cock, he was pulling on my nipples, which I absolutely fucking love.  I kept asking him to pull harder and harder.  Finally, he chuckled and replied, “If I go pull any harder, I’m going to rip the damn nipples right off your tits!”**

The Methods

  • Fingers and Teeth:  Obviously, the most basic of nipple play/torture is done with the fingers and the teeth.  If you’re interested in starting slowly with nipple play, check out my post on it.  If you are looking for something a little heavier, continue reading…  With biting and pinching, keep in mind to build up your partner.  Start slow and gradually push those limits, and I bet you will both be surprised how much she can take.  Mix it up, play around, pinch and squeeze, pinch and pull.  Bite and scrap.  Pull with your teeth.  All sorts of ways to go here, use your imaginations!
  • Hitting/Flogging:  Although this is more about breast play then nipples in particular, I just wanted to make a quick mention, as I like to have my breasts lightly beaten, as do others.  When playing with flagellation in this area, keep in mind that you must begentle, perhaps even more gentle than either of you would like.  If you are new to playing these games, start with light  spanking toys, such as hands, soft leather floggers, paddles, or crops.  Canes, whips, and such can be used, but extreme caution must prevail, and you must remember that the insides of the breasts have a lot going on that can be damaged by blunt force.  Also, breast tissue tends to be extra sensitive and will lacerate much quicker than, say, the cheeks of her ass.  So beat with care my little darlings, get those breasts a nice, glowing, candy apple red, but if she starts getting welts, I’d recommend slowing down a bit…

    English: Chained nipple clamps on female breas...

    English: Chained nipple clamps on female breasts. Deutsch: Durch eine Kette verbundene Brustwarzenklemmen, angebracht an den Brustwarzen einer Frau; schwarz-weiß Foto (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  • Clamps:  First, some general information on clamps.  I love my nipple clamps.  I truly do.  I’d wear them all the time if I could figure out a way to get away with it.  The bit of extra weight, the cold metal against my skin, the chain bouncing against my breasts.  Fuck, I’m getting myself distracted here.  Ok, *clears throat*, back to nipple clamps.  There are all sorts of clamps out there, and they all serve different purposes.  Some work better on little nipples, some on big nipples.  Some are good for beginners, but the seasoned expert with scoff at them.  Look around, see what works best for you (I’m thinking, as my clamp collection grows, I will do a specific post on the different types, but for now, my knowledge is too limited to go into detail on types).  And don’t think they need to be something fancy from a kink speciality shop, because as some of you know, clothes pins can become fantastic nipple clamps, as can mini C-clapms from your local hardware store.  Get creative and look around, you may be suprised with what you come up with!  The first time you use clamps, be prepared.  It’s most likely going to hurt way worse than you anticipated.  I like to use a set of clamps that are adjustable, that way, as you progress into your play, the pressure can be manually increased or decreased, depending on what you are feeling, or how cruel you man is (M…  well, let me just tell you that the first time I had a pair of clamps on, by the time we were done, they were as tight as they could go).  It will hurt bad when the clamp is first placed on the nipple (and take some care here, as when they pull off unexpectedly, it can be rather painful).  I like to have my clamps placed as close to the base of my nipple as possible, that way, the whole of the nipple is being pinched, and it lessens the chance of the clamp working its way to the end of my nipple and popping off.  Once the clamps are in place, the pain will dull.  But don’t leave them on too long, especially for the novice.  As the real pain, and I mean the REAL pain with nipple clamps is when they come off, as there isa rush of blood back into the surface of the skin, and boy, one or two experiences and you will know if you are into it or not, it can be that intense (the closest explanation I can think of is when you were a kid and outside in the cold, playing in the snow with your gloves off.  Your hands get cold and you don’t really even notice.  But once you come in, and they begin to warm up, you get an almost burning sensation…  Yep, it’s like that).  While intense, it is relatively short-lived, and, I suggest, when you remove the clamps, to put a bit of pressure on the nipple itself, to relieve a bit of the pain.

    English: Breasts covered in hot wax and nipple...

    English: Breasts covered in hot wax and nipples squeezed between clothespins. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  • Ice and Wax:  Sensation play is a rough one for me to talk about, as it seems one is either really into it, or really not.  As with anything else (I’m sure you are getting tired of hearing me say this) take it slow.  particularly with the wax, as the skin of the nipple is slightly different from skin elsewhere on the body, so start easy and progress slowly; just because it doesn’t burn on your forearm does not mean it’s not going to burn on her nipple.  First degree burns happen way easier than people realize, and man, would that fucking suck having burns on your nipples!  But play around with the hot and cold and see what gets her rocks off, you may be surprised.  And another fun trick, although somewhat vanilla, is to not only use wax and ice, but hot coffee and ice water in your mouth before taking her nipple between your lips.  Rotate back and forth between the liquids and watch for her responses as first she feels a very warm, steamy mouth, then an ice-cold chilly tongue flicking across her nipples.
  • Electrocution:  Ok, so straight up, I’ve never played with electrocution on my nipples, so I’m probably not the best to be giving advice, but I’m going to tell you what I know.  The safest shock toys are a TENS unit (I have one and they can be a bit of fun) or a Violet Wand (never played with one of these, but have read reviews on them).  These are both relatively safe, but I, personally, would not let anyone use much of anything else on me in this department, unless I researched it throughly.  Things such as batteries and wall currents, these can cause damaging burns and even, given the right circumstances, cardiac arrest.  So, if you are playing this way, stick to the safe stuff, which are designed to be used on human skin.


So there you have it folks, the fundamentals of nipple torture.  I, myself, have always been a fan of rough nipple play.  especially after having breastfed three children.  Most of the time, my nipples are damn near numb, with little to no feeling about them.  They can be squeezed and pinched, and I will barely bat an eye.  But, christ, get me on top of M’s cock, and have him start pulling on them, I’ll be cuming like a mad woman, soaking him in juices.  Or, even better, attach some nipple clamps, and with M behind me doggy style, the feel of the chains will put me over the edge.  Then when he reaches around and lightly tugs on the metal, fuck, I’m a goner!  I normally don’t post pics of myself, especially of my breasts (never been done before on LSAM), but I thought the occasion might justify it, with all this talk of nipples and clamps and cumming, I had to put on my newest set…  And, well, having M take pictures of me in my collar and clamps, that led to this…Which in turn led to this… (christ, I may be in a bit of trouble after he sees this post tomorrow!  hehe)…And, well, this led to me face down on the bed, with one hand wrapped in my hair and the other pressed down between my shoulder blades as I had the shit fucked out of me, but, my dears, those pictures are for me…

And, as M put it in a text to me earlier today, in response to my typical *hugs and kisses*, he, like a gentleman said *titty smacks and nipple clamps*


And the song of the day, just because, after a good fucking, I am Smiling…

Nipple Play

English: pierced nipples, my own photo

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I’ve had a strange relationship with my nipples and nipple play throughout the years.  I’ve always had big boobs, and was one of the first girls in school to have to wear a bra.  Once in high school, it made me popular, but that when hand in hand with lots of comments and ogling.  This seemed to make me disconnect with my boobs.  I cared less that they were there, and often wished I was a girl with “itty-bitty-titties.”  So for years, and I mean YEARS, nipple play did not do a whole lot for me.  It felt nice, even good sometimes, but overall, it wasn’t going to get me anywhere.  At 23, I decided to get them pierced.  Not because I was looking for more pleasure (pain?) from them, but simply because I loved the way a bar bell looked through a hard nipple.  To my surprise, it really increased the pleasure I felt through nipple play.  I’d love it when M and would tug on the rings with his teeth.  Even just simple squeezes felt better. 

Then I got pregnant.  I took my rings out.  Then I got pregnant again.  And again.   I breastfed all three of them.  This meant that my boobs got even bigger.  REALLY big.  I’d hear comments from my male friends, or my husband’s friends when they didn’t think I was listening.  Things about motor boating and titty fucking, and blah, blah, blah.  It made me start to hate them.  They were in my way all the time.  They made my back hurt.  They fucked with my golf swing.  And if you know anything about breastfeeding, you know that after a while, the nipples become calloused from the baby suckling.  When this happens, over and over again, the nipples become desensitized due to nerve damage.

So, for a long time, I barely even noticed nipple play.  Could barely feel it.  Even today, you’d be impressed with how hard my nipples can be squeezed, tugged, and pulled without even a wince from me.  But then one day, while I was riding M, he grabbed my nipples, hard, and pulled.  I instantly came all over him.  And it didn’t stop.  Now, I absolutely LOVE my nipples being played with.  It has to be hard, and it has to be rough, but I love it.  Never in my first 15+ years of masturbating, did I ever play with my nipples.  Now I do it all the time.  I crave it.  I don’t know what happened, and I don’t know why, all I know is I’m so happy about it. 

So, here’s some information about nipple play.  Understand my experience, and understand many women and men do not like it like I do.  I’m going to try to cover all angles here, but I’m sure there will be some stuff missing.  Please help me fill in the blanks, add what I’ve forgotten, and give your impressions on how you like your nipples played with.

Starting Off

As with anything sexual, always follow your partner’s lead.  Watch for signs that they like it (sighs, moans, intake of

English: Standard nipple piercings. East Bay C...

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breath, etc) or that they don’t.  If you don’t know your lover’s preference with nipple play, it’s best to start slow and gentle.


Many feel that it is exciting to have their nipples blown on (especially after a mouth as been there-when you blow over the moisture, it can send chills) and it is an excited way to begin your nipple play.  You can switch between cool breaths (purse your lips together and blow hard) and warm (mouth open, close to the skin, breathing slow), creating different feelings.


Touch your fingers, your whole hand, or your tongue, but pay attention to the response of the body.  Nipples respond whether we want them to or not.  They will grow, harden, tighten, lengthen.  Watch for these responses, and proceed accordingly.  Start slow, and build up.  Increase pressure.  Increase speed.  Start at the edge of her breast, where the curve begins.  Massage, rolling your fingers in, towards her nipple.  Circle around the areola, closing in the nipple itself.  Change between caresses, making small circles around the nipple, to a slight pinch or tug.  I personally enjoy a pulling twist.  Roll the nipple back and forth in between your pointer finger and your thumb.  Vary the pressure.  Again, watch and respond to what your partner is feeling. 

Another strategy is to start at the inside and go out.  If his nipples are sensitive (and they are, men have just as many nerves endings in their nipples as women), you can start with the nipple.  Play with it.  Gently twist it, pull it.  As his pleasure increases, widen your grasp before closing in on the nipple, eventually massaging all of his pec.  Play around.  See what works for you and your lover.  Mix it up.  Experiment.

A quick note on pinching.  I, personally, love having my nipples pinched.  Others don’t.  Start slowly, with gentle pressure, pinch and hold.  Vary the pressure and the length.  Let it go slowly, especially at first.  If you are pinching hard, the blood rushing back into the nipple creates a unique experience, which some will love and others will find very uncomfortable.  Play with this too, varying all the different aspects.  Find out what you like.  Some like a slow hard pinch, with a gentle release.  Others like a quick, hard pinch, with a quick let go. 


If nipples respond to manual play, oral play can be even more exciting.  Again, start slow and gentle.  Begin with your lips, brushing against it.  Slightly open your lips around the nipple, lick it with your tongue.  Use different motions, running your tongue around the nipple, use the tip of your tongue to flick across it, or flatten your tongue out and run it along the nipple.  Suck on them.  Lightly at first (the first boy to suck on my nipples, when I was 13, left huge hickies on both my breasts-he was older-16-and was sucking so hard it hurt, but I was too nervous to ask him to stop- it wasn’t fun).  Increase the pressure slowly and mix it up by still using your tongue to play with it.

Some (many?) like biting.  Lightly scrap your teeth along the edges of the nipple, from bottom to top.  Or you can grip the nipple between your teeth and use your tongue to do circles around it while the nipple is in your mouth.  If you’d like to go further, start with a gentle bite, maybe with a slight pulling back of your head, creating pressure from both the tugging and the teeth.  Watch for the response.  Maybe you can go harder, maybe not. 

English: Wax play on nipple.

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Kink and nipples have a long history and their relationship comes in many forms.  Playing with temperature is a light kink to start with.  Grab some hot tea and ice-cubes.  Take a drink of the hot liquid, then put your mouth on her nipple.  Play a bit.  Get an ice-cube in your hand and, after taking your warm mouth away, gently place the ice on her nipple.  Watch her squirm.  Keep in mind that ice will cause numbing pretty quick, so you may want to start with just a few seconds or so at a time.  You can step this game up a notch by playing with wax (please make sure it’s body wax, as it cools quickly- regular candle wax can burn skin, especially when it is as sensitive as  skin around your nipple).

Clamps.  They come in many styles and strengths.  There are clamps that go on each nipple separately.  There are

Nipple Clamps.

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clamps that are joined with a chain, designed to be pulled on (I’ve never used one of these, but I’m definitely ordering one soon- I’ll let you know what I think after it arrives).  There are clothes pin style clamps, that pinch down and can’t be regulated.  There are others, like C-clamps, that can be adjusted to create just the right amount of pressure.  And then there are clamps that vibrate and clamps that can have electric shocks run through them.  These are more extreme kinks, some focused on nipple torture rather than nipple pleasure.  But, as many of us know…  It’s a thin line between the two.  remember when using clamps, they force the blood out of the nipple.  When removed, especially those that pinch very tight, they can create more pain than the clamps themselves.  Be careful.

Final Thoughts

And, girls, remember nipple play is not just for you.  M loves to have his nipples played with.  Many men do.  There is also talk out there about nipple orgasms.  I’ve never had one, so I don’t want to pretend to tell you how to do it, but I believe they do exist.  If you’ve experienced one (giving or receiving), tell me about it. 

And after all this, I’m thinking of getting my nipples re-pierced…  I wonder what M would think.